For I the Lord your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing steadfast love to thousands of those who love me and keep my commandments” (Deuteronomy 5:9–10, esv).
One of my moms mentioned that she finally reached out to her mom living in another state. Great, I responded. She said that she sent her pictures of her children. See, she added, I had to move away from her because she was so negative. She never told me she loved me. I thought to myself, how does a mom never tell her daughter she loves her? Ever? At this, I leaned in close to her and whispered, I imagine you don’t let a day go by that you don’t tell your children you love them. She shook her head fiercely. No, I don’t. Even when I get angry with them, I quickly pull them to me and tell them why I was upset and that I love them.
This mom is breaking the generational stronghold with proactive steps. She distanced herself from the destructive behavior and has chosen to be loving and kind toward her children.
Hezekiah, one of my favorite kings, chose to break the stronghold that was in his country that his father Ahaz had created. King Hezekiah came into position after witnessing his father King Ahaz choosing to worship the pagan god Baal. He removed all the places of Baal worship and brought back the Levitical priests that had been established by the Lord and commanded that they clean out the Temple in Jerusalem. After they had thoroughly cleaned out the temple, restoring it to its beauty, he called all the tribes of Israel to come to Jerusalem to worship.
Many people gathered in Jerusalem and celebrated for days upon days! II Chronicles 31 describes how the Lord God responded: “And every work which he (King Hezekiah) began in the service of the house of God in law and in commandment, seeking his God, he did with all his heart and prospered.” (Full story in II Chronicles 28-31:21).
King Hezekiah chose to return to the worship of the one true God of his fathers, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob and King David. He also encouraged all the people to return to Jehovah God. He broke the generational stronghold, even though not all the people chose to worship God.
This mom chose to break the generational stronghold of negativity, and the lack of communicating love. She had an encounter with the Lord Jesus Christ who told her the truth about herself. Told her she was loved. That her confessed sins were forgiven. That she could love back. She could express her love to her children and be free of the pain of not being told she was loved by her own mother. The story doesn’t end there. She has reached out to her mother in kindness and love. A hope of forgiveness is taking place. The Lord is using this daughter to bring about a change of heart to her mother so that she may know the true love of her heavenly Father and enjoy the fellowship of her daughter and her grandchildren. Halleluiah! Love how God works!